and mental wellbeing for children and young people
Relationships and connectedness
Every interaction is an opportunity to help a child / young person grow and develop:
- We learn through interactions and relationships
- Repeated experiences become habits
- These become wired in our brains
- This cycle increases the chances of us repeating these habits
- These habits and wiring can improve and support resilience and wellbeing
“Just one emotionally available adult in the school, community or home can make all the difference…
This is why we beleive every school should review their behaviour policy to see just how inconsistent it may be with a relationships approach. So many behaviour polices rely on consequences including "...relational withdrawl - time out; detention; seclusion; isolation, a managed move or exclusion... If a pupil is distressed and communicating this through their behaviour surely.. (it would better) ...to attempt to attune to and translate what they might be trying to say?" (Louise Bomber: Know Me to Teach Me) . And then create a Relationships Policy alongside / instead
(*Also referred to Relational Policies to avoid confusion with sex and relationships policies!)
"We must get relationships on the map in school and then prioritise relationships first before anything else, yes, even the curriculum! Nothing must ever be at the expense of our relationship with the children and young people we are alongside, Nothing". Louise Bomber: Know Me to Teach Me (A must read, alongside the work of Paul Dix )
Work on creating Relationships Policies is making huge strides as more and more schools and settings begin to explore Trauma Informed Practice. Both Louise Bomber and Paul Dix offer guidance / outline policies. Our colleagues in the Education Psychology Service are looking closely at how to support schools to develop relationships policies.
TIS Training in Cornwall
Practitioners will have been provided with a sample relationships policy based on the PRRR model and some additional guidance materials based on their TIS training.